Sometimes you can be touched by God, but not healed. Often when this happens, he is using your pain for a greater purpose. ~ Shannon L. Adler
I was inspired to create this blog after one particular experience of being angry and hurt for the umpteenth time due to a continually difficult relationship with a family member and struggling to make sense of and deal with (their) judgements and unnecessary comments about me. I’d become so fed up with their immature behavior on how I choose to live and being content in that.
Unfortunately, this relationship has been this way from the start. There wasn’t much I could do to change this person’s opinion of me. When someone resents you, they will only see you from their myopic view.
{“What other people think of me is none of my business.” }~Wayne Dyer
The Lord helped me to see that when people are in pain or ignorant about themselves and who they should be, (in Him) they will project their feelings onto those that they feel threatened by or do not understand. Of course, there may be a host of other personal situations your offender may or may not affectively be dealing with in their personal lives.
This wasn’t a problem for me to try to ‘fix’ because it was and is, a spirit problem and only our Lord can get in and make changes;
but, only if he’s invited in.
Not all relationships are meant to bring joy or positivity into our lives. Some are there to teach us, to utilize our ability to give the goodness that they’re incapable of. I didn’t start off giving back because I was new in my walk with the Lord and still deep into my feelings without the Lord’s wisdom I’ve been blessed to come to know. However, as I mature and remember to stay connected to Him,(John 15:5) I know that good works are being done within me, my struggles with my ‘feelings’ haven’t gone away, but I know that those feelings are unreliable, they often distort, volumize, and cloud most situations, forming a fog that is very difficult to navigate through effectively. I must stay focused on moving forward even though I am unable to see the bigger picture.
{“The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.” ~Psalm 18:2}
I give back through prayer, blessings and goodness for those ( offenders). Prayer for a drawing closer to God and the understanding of who they are in Him, and forgiveness ( a constant struggle!! LOL) for them just as my Father has forgiven me. I continue to work on this often formidable task of forgiveness, I do so because my father tells me to ( I love and desire to obey him). I am thankful for the pruning of my spirit so that I may abide by Him…
Jesus saith into him, I say not onto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Matt 18:22
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